I believe is good…Selfishness

 Most of us assume that selfishness is both wrong and unhealthy. But is this true? Selfishness means acting in ones self-interest. In my opinion, I believe that all healthy individuals are selfish. Choosing to pursue the career of your choice is selfish. Choosing to have children or not to have children is selfish. Insisting on freedom and individual rights rather than living under a dictatorship, is selfish. Of course, even ordinary behaviors such as breathing, eating and avoiding an oncoming car when crossing the street are selfish acts. Without selfishness, none of us would survive the day much less a life. Selfishness does not mean self-destructive behavior. In other words, a car thief is not selfish. He has to run from the law constantly, something most car owners never have to do. Even if he escapes the law, he will not experience as much pleasure from possessing the car, as would an honest person. Lying to your wife, or any loved one, is not selfish. The psychological stress of trying to live the lie of an affair or any major secret is enormous. A selfish person understands that honesty is the best policy and the least painful in the long run. The opposite of selfishness is self-sacrifice. Self-sacrifice means giving up a greater value for a lesser value. Consider the example of a beaten wife, who is married to an alcoholic who refuses to seek help. She stays with him for reasons o f security and family stability. Yet in the process she sacrifices her self-esteem and physical safety (the greater values) to the irrational ideas of her husband (lesser values). Consider the example of the hard-working student who allows a friend to copy her answers on an examination. The student is sacrificing both his integrity and his efforts (the greater values) to the laziness and low self-esteem of her friend (lesser values). Or, consider the envious individual who tries to get you to feel guilty for your hard-earned success. “You are lucky to have done so well,” the envious person says. Now you have a duty to share some of your success with others. Certainly, a selfish person wants to share his success with those he genuinely cares about such as his family, friends, or children (the greater values). But why should he make sacrifices to individuals he does not know or care about (lesser values)? Selfish individuals give to charity and the less fortunate if and when they choose. A selfish person is not stingy. He simply values the use of his own judgment in making decisions about how to spend his money, and when to give it away. Most of us assume that some selfishness is healthy, but too much selfishness will lead to loneliness and despair. This idea is the wrong definition of selfishness. Selfishness means acting in one’s rational self-interest. By rational I mean that one can logically prove that an action is in one’s self-interest in the long run as well as the short run. For instance, Michael might think that it is in his self-interest to cheat on his wife, in the short run. But if he considers the long-term, he will understand that he loses her either way by lying to her. If he really loves his wife, he will feel terrible if he lies to her. If he no longer loves his wife, it is senseless to continue living with her and making the choice to have an affair as a secret. A selfish individual does not like to lie, because he sees that it does not bring him long-term happiness. Most of us assume that we cannot be both selfish and kind to others. This is simply not true. If a mother loves her son, it makes her happy to give up some of her money to buy him a bike or car insurance. It is not a sacrifice it is a supremely selfish act, both mother and son benefit. Another example (of what I’m trying to get across), is that there is an owner of a restaurant and he is doing his duties to the fullest serving the public. He provides good food and a nice atmosphere so that he can make a profit and beat the competition. Both owner and diners benefit. A physician does not provide quality treatment for showing unselfish reasons. He provides it because he is financially and emotionally rewarded for being competent and caring. Otherwise he appropriately loses his patients. Both patient and doctor benefit from selfishness. In a rational society, selfishness is encouraged. A rational society is one where individuals are left free to pursue their self-interest. In the process, everyone benefits. Rational selfishness means acting in your self-interest and accepting responsibility for determining what truly serves your long-term interest. It is a nice alternative to a life filled with duty, labor and adversity. We live in a world which does not even recognize the option of rational selfishness. We are taught, from childhood, that we must be either self-sacrificing or thoughtlessly selfish. I believe that this is a wrong alternative. Rational selfishness, if practiced consistently, it is the means of living both moral and psychologically healthy life. If you choose to recognize this alternative, such a life can be yours. 

giving thanx

As the leaves on the trees begin to turn colors, I sit here and look through piles of photos and realize how thankful I am for the gift of friendship and for memories of times that have past. This makes me think about my family. Life these days is tough for most of us. It is easy to give in to the stress of daily life and complain about all the things we think are wrong with our lives. We all do it. Gas prices are way too high, people are losing their jobs, and the economy stinks. Yea, it’s easy to find all the bad things. But everyday, I find time to think of all the things in my life that are good, and sometimes even things not so good that make me a stronger person, also my family and friends who help me through anything that I need a helping hand on. I am often reminded by them, that I can do anything that I set my mind to do. I am also thankful for success, opportunity, and character. I hold these values very strongly as to how people perceive me from time to time, but I don’t let those characteristics define me. If I did, what would I have left to express for “comfort” (as my dad would say) and for being “me” (as dylan would say). Why limit giving thanks to the holiday Thanksgiving to let people know how thankful you are for life, health, family, friends, and happiness? So what if what you hoped for does not happin right at that moment, the only way to make something happen is to not “hope” for something and to instead work for it and to put the time and effort in witch is the only way to get something in this world we live in. We must be thankful for what we do have, because the things that we have most people don’t have the opportunity to have. Thanksgiving is one of America’s most treasured holidays. While there are some barriers in the way we observe the day, it can mean different things to different people. The American Thanksgiving holiday began as a feast in the early days of the American colonies were the pilgrims and Indians came together brining food sitting with each other, eating and being thankful for what they had. The story of how thanksgiving came about has inspired me greatly.

SUCCESS

                     There is a relatively close relationship between happiness and being successful. Successful is when a guy saying “I want to have it the easy way in my future, I want to be successful” and actually accomplishes it. You can always be successful and unhappy. It’s just like a price tag on an expensive coat you really desire, but don’t have the money to afford it. Right then you would have to decide, 1) you’re going to work hard for it, 2) You’re just going to stand there and cry about it and 3) go in the store and point a gun down the salesmen’s throat. Of these three choices, none of them are actually outrageous or chaotic. If you take some time to think about it, if it’s what you really want, what’s stopping you? Yourself consciousness is the only stopping you between you and your temptation.

GOD YES OR NO

If you spend time asking yourself serious questions like, “Who made all this?” or “What is life all about?” chances are you will come to some kind of belief in a higher power.

                     I was thinking over this topic and realized, most of the bad things in the world of past and present, suicides, and depression is because of religion, and I feel that the world would be a lot better off if religion was no more. I’m sorry but this is completely out of order. Religion should be gone altogether in my eyes. I mean, come on, lets celebrate members of gods church wasting there life away, having no fun whatsoever just to serve a higher being that in my eyes, is complete bullshit. We are our own body mind and soul and we are born in this world to live our life the way we would like, not under a higher or lower being. We should not half to beg, plead and forgive, just so one day we could possibly go to heaven if the so-called “god” chooses to let us in. Also what about the pain, suffering and hunger in the world we live in today there are so many people that go through this each and everyday, here’s the thing, God either is unwilling to prevent pain suffering and hunger, or he is unable to prevent prevent pain suffering and hunger because it exists and not him. I believe that we all need to live our lives to the fullest forget about god and stop wasting our time because one day when your life’s over what will you have to show for it…if its doing what god wants great, but if you lived your life the way you wanted to that’s great to. Just remember this, you are always there for god but has god always been there for you.

What does everyone else think about this extreme view?

FAMILY MATTERS

If there is anything in my life that has ever meant more to me then my family I don’t know what it could be. My main thing in life is to have a very close relationship with my whole family. Family to me is not just my dad, mom, my brother and two sisters it is my grandparents, uncles, aunts, and even in laws. Has anyone ever asked you, “ What is your most important thing in life”? My answer has always been my family. A family that never sees all there relatives is not a family through my eyes. I feel everyone should see or at least call their relatives a lot because once there gone, they’re gone for life and you will not b able to see or talk to them again. Trust me when ever one is gone then you realize what a great dad or mom or what a great grandpa or grandma or even a great brother or sister you actually had. Find out what a great relative you had before the tragic day comes. When people have been notified that one of there relatives has died in  a different state or somewhere far away from where they usually lived  they usually don’t start crying right then. That’s why I believe in family’s sticking together. Thousands of couples divorce and they never see their kids ever again. If I was put in a situation where I never got to see my dad or mom ever again in my life my beliefs would not be the same. On a good note you can have fun with your family. For instance you could have just a simple game night, a day in morrow bay, camping at the lake, or even a movie night. Or may even a road trip to Florida. These are the things you will hold onto in your heart forever. With all these memories you will never forget your family. Every one should also be very thankful for what family they do have because one day it could just be you and no one else. People may hate or dislike so much they could kill each other, but they may be the only ones left in their family some day. Your family may be the richest family or they could be the poorest family but it doesn’t matter because as long as you have your relatives that is the only thing that matters in my eyes.

this week during all my classes, when i had time, i wrote this

In this world that surrounds us
                      We sometimes brake down and fall
    Those who stand above us
   Can make us seem so small

We tremble under the weight
Of the problems that hold us down
And when we start to collapse
There seems to be no one around

We try to fight in this world
But the world always seems to fight back
Sometimes we’re not strong enough though
There are too many things we lack

We’ll hide away in corners
Put upon ourselves pain
But there’s no escape from this life
We all must suffer differently

But although we may struggle
And yes we all do fall
I’ll stand by your side
I’ll stay with you through it all

And if you start to tremble
Or even brake down
I’m your shoulder to cry on
I’ll always be around

We all have our faults
Are up and are downs
We cant always smile all the time
Everyone has to frown

No, no ones perfect
And no one is the same
We’re in this world together
We all play the same game

If we stick together
No matter whats to come
With a little faith and hope
Anything can be possible

We all get those bad times
Each and every one of us
But I promise it will get better
Just don’t you give up

But when you feel like you want too
Please just remember this
You can die at any time
But it takes a strong person to live

This poem is dedicated to you all. For we all suffer sometimes in our lives. Some of us suffer loss, others from the feeling of being different, there are so many things that bring us down. Some sit in their rooms and just cry and pray for a better life, some of us can’t handle things and reach for the knife. Whatever makes you depressed, no matter how down you feel, how close to giving up you get, don’t!!!
Hold on, be strong, there is always someone out there who cares for you. Life has it’s up and downs, and one day, it’ll look up for you too
If you need someone to turn to, i am here, for anyone who needs me. Like my best friend and I always say “ we ride together we die together bad boys for life” (my email is 02mstang@gmail.com)

iwrote this song or poem igues you could say, after my latest breakup

After 12 im not so well as you say goodnight to me its funny, how time flys by just like the goodbye you gave me its never easy for me or you and im counting seconds until you break the silence as I watch the sun fade into the dark here I go sending you a post card with all my care and love im missing you but you don’t feel the pain I feel but its killing me to see you gone after all this time my dear. I cant breathe without you but I have to being broken is very fragile I cant turn away from you because theres sumthing about you so addictive I should have knew how this would end but I was to blind to see you’re the reason for the teardrops on this pen n paper but people are people and sometimes it doesn’t work out and I cant find my way out of this painful room that is suffocating me in here I feel broken up and feel like giving up and I just wanna tell you there’s no one who gets me like you do I guess its time for me to go, go and be on my own you took a chance with me but left me out in the rain with my heart flooded with this pain so ill forgive you and set you free and step out of the feelings i have for you and walk away. You never know how to express yourself to me don’t you have the balls to say how you feel about me I just want to know what you got to say you said we couldn’t be together but I took that chance with you and look at what it did to me but I need you like a heart beat im falling off these tracks I know this road is not for me but I keep coming back hoping you will take me back I thought I could be strong but babe you’re my weakness. I see you in my mind as I drive away waiting for my heart to be healed by your thought when we met there was something more but the others said no and you shut the door you said we couldn’t be together I have to get over love makes a choice it has no voice I guess I guess this is good by. Promise me you wont forget about me but tonight I am beautifully broken and I will see you later just like you told me so I hope to see you later just like you told me so I hope to see you at the finish line goodbye.

You shouldnt lie you will be better off

Living in the world these days is really hard. People are not honest with each other and not being honest always causes problems that sometimes leads to someone getting hurt emotionally or physically. It seems that in everyday life there is something someone can always lie about. In my opinion I think lying is wrong and should always tell the truth. Because everyone you come to talk to will trust you, if you do lie the truth will eventually come out, and if you do not lie you will have a clean conscious.

If you don’t lie it will be a big advantage to you. Everyone you come to talk to or you know will trust you because they now that your not a liar. You will have good friends and a great job. Like my youngest sister graduated from college. She never lies and she has a great life 2 house’s 3 cars and a boat and she’s someone you can trust. People these days no matter what business they own want to hire honest people, people they can trust and that can work hard and make them money.

If you think about it lying does not do you or anyone else any good. It doesn’t solve anything. Maybe at first if you are a good liar it will, but eventually the truth will come out. When the truth does come out things get bad and problems start to happen. People sometimes get hurt emotionally and physically. For example, if a couple breaks up people sometimes may be fired if it has anything to do with their work, or you can even loose a good friend. You see this all the time in talk shows. Were people come out telling the truth to someone about something they lied about. Then the other people end up getting hurt. Its not worth loosing anything over a lie.

The most important reason why I think people should always tell the truth is so that you can have a clean conscious. If you lie, eventually it’s going to get to your conscious. You will be thinking about the lie and about getting caught. Having a clean conscious is the best thing, you can have. It makes you feel good and you do not have anything to worry about. For Example Bill Clinton when the event came out about him and Monica he denied everything. But then with the pressure of the press and his wife he came out with the truth. It was probably the only thing he was thinking about and couldn’t concentrate on other things. So if you have a clear conscious you are more comfortable with your self and around others.

People may disagree with me and say it is o.k. To lie when it is appropriate, but who can actually decide what is appropriate or not. People can always be saying to themselves that it’s appropriate on anything they want to lie about. Some people may say that it is o.k. To lie so they will not hurt someone they love, but if they did not want to hurt this person they would not have said or done anything that would lead this person to lie. Finally, another thing people might say its o.k. to lie if it’s a small lie that wont hurt any one, but what I think is that if you think it’s a small lie then why lie about it. There is no need for it.

Living in the world these days it is hard enough with out having to lie all the time. If people were honest, we would not have so many problems. It doesn’t pay to lie because although you might not get caught your conscious will eventually get to you. There is nothing like honesty and as the saying goes honesty is the best policy.

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